by: Remie Longbrake | published: Dec 2, 2019
There’s no doubt that life does not come with an instruction booklet! It sure would be easier if it did, but does that defeat the purpose of living?
Living after all is a gift, one that we hope will be complete with all the things we want and need to prosper and be complete with ourselves. We want to live in a peak stake, but all to often life does not turn out that way for us.
Life is messy, and it is real. It can be a real challenge to get enough accomplished. With careers, family life, financial responsibilities, heartache and loss, it’s not always easy.
I hear so often about why life is what it is. I can’t explain that it much detail or comprehension, but I do know there is a point to all this, even if it is not always that clear.
So the question becomes how can we not only survive, but really thrive and be the best version we possibly can be, for ourselves, loved ones, church, community, and God?
I believe it is by finding our calling and doing the very best we can do, what ever that looks like to us.
I outlined some good tips, by my own experiences, observations and of course challenges. You may find them useful to, so here they are:
Wouldn’t it be great if there was a simple set of instructions for living a happy and fulfilled life? How about an instruction manual for life?
A lot of us really over analyze and look for the most complicated way of doing things, often not even realizing it. We all face challenges, however it’s how we see these challenges that sets us up for our own future. Life may seems very complicated at times, and it certainly can be, but there is nothing wrong with taking time out, enjoying time with family, with friend and making new ones along the way. Stop stressing about work, lack of money, time and everything else. Not saying to forget about it, but for the most part with some diligence on your part things will work out, it may not be exactly how you see it, but perhaps that’s the point.
I also see and hear about lots of disorganization. A messy room set us up for a messy life. Start with the easy things and build up to more complex issues as you become prepared. This also goes with our relationships. Yep, those can be messy too. Too much drama, perhaps it’s time to deal with it and move on. You’re only stuck if you choose to be, so choose wisely!
How many times have you heard someone say, “If only I had a few more dollars I’d…” or “If I just had another day off I could…”?
Many people don’t know how to be satisfied with what life gives them. They are so busy wanting more that they squander what life has already given them.
Nobody said life is easy and sometimes, you have to make the tough choices. Never put off a decision that you can make today. You may miss some of the best and most exciting opportunities in the world because you were indecisive. Successful people didn’t get where they were at by prolonging or going back and forth on decisions!
You’ve heard it before and you’ll hear it here again:
It only takes a few muscles to smile!
You would be surprised at how well being cheerful to others can spread like wildfire. We live in a society where it seems that glumness is the rule of order. A simple smile or kind word can spread through our culture like wildfire.
Is it really your concern what the guy across the street wants to do with his life or who he wants to share his life with?
Learn to live your life to the fullest and let others do the same. None of us is above anyone else and none of us should think we should be allowed to dictate how other people should live their life.
Adversity can be one of the most powerful teachers we will ever have in our lives. You will learn so much about life by overcoming adversity and learning how to face it head on. Adversity often comes dressed in many different outfits, but you will change your life by learning how to deal with it and prosper from it.
You only get one shot at this life, so make the most of it. Have some fun and show your children and those around you that you know how to have fun. You aren’t the greatest gift to mankind this world has ever had so don’t act like it! You may find you add years to your life, not to mention a ton of laughter! Laughter has been shown to help people live longer, lower cardiovascular diseases, and help people relate to others from around the world.
Be objective in your decision-making and risk-taking. Know the facts and avoid letting racial, social or any other type of bias influence your decisions. Great leaders perform their best when they act based on facts, not on emotion or prejudices. Become a great leader in your life.
You will make mistakes. In fact, you will make so many mistakes you will never be able to list them all. Learn that mistakes happen and the best thing you can do is to learn from them. Don’t spend your entire life dwelling on a mistake you made years ago – learn from it and move on. The world isn’t going to wait while you live in the past.
Stop beating yourself up over things that happened in the past, the things you did or didn’t do, and mistakes you may have made with others.
Forgiving yourself is a skill so few of us have the ability to accomplish. It’s such a shame that we spend a lifetime living in the past and never make it to our full potential in the future. Forgive yourself and, just as importantly, forgive others.
It may seem like a rather long list, but I encourage you to read it and then refer back to it every now and then. You’ll see each one ties into the others in some fashion and that these simple steps really do help you live a more meaningful, happy and fulfilled life.
Figure out what you want and go for it! We live way too small as a society. What does that get us in the end? Prepare yourself and look within to what really matters to you. Stop listening to others opinions of what they want for your life. Not saying don’t compromise some, life take some compromising, however don’t give up all you stand for to make someone else happy.
Be the best and do the best you do always! You got this!